At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how people are nice to you and ask you if they can help you somehow in any event that is happening in your life. Most of the time that is just a nice gesture. Their own issues will most of the time, if not always, be of the most significance. So, don’t get consumed in the offended mood, but forgive, forget and move on. People will always put themselves above you. It would be silly to expect otherwise. Chances are we behave the same way. This doesn’t mean that people are evil. Your own pain will always be closer and more dear to you.